You Love Someone for Their Flaws
Although most people start out
looking for perfection, you will find that life leads you
in strange directions. Perhaps perfection is not at all what
you are looking for. When you have perfection, are you really
going to be happy? Sometimes, you love someone for
their flaws. Why? Because those flaws match
your personality very well making you happy to be
around the person with those flaws. After all, everyone is
looking for happiness.
Why should you love someone for their
flaws?
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Imagine you
are with a perfect partner who never does
anything wrong. Then wouldn't you feel
inadequate when you are the only one in the
relationship who is dropping things, falling
over things, forgetting things, and making all
the mistakes?
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In a relationship, most
people want to feel, not only wanted, but needed. If someone is
perfect in every way, then why would that person need you who
is not perfect and who make many mistakes?
Eventually, you will find that when you are
with someone who is less perfect than you or who is perfect in
ways you are not but less perfect in ways that you are, then
you will be happier. People always talk about the distinction
between "perfect" and "perfect for you". Someone with many
flaws could be perfect for you even though on his or her own,
he or she is no way near perfect.
Movies exploring how you can love someone
for their flaws
There are many movies that explore the
meaning of loving someone for their flaws and finding a soul
mate who is perfect, not for everyone else, but for you. In
many movies, men date many beautiful and sexy women but marry
the next door girls who are plain and boring in comparison. Men
and women need security and security is hard to be had when you
are with someone so perfect.
In the movie, Good Luck Chuck, for example,
Dr. Charles Logan had every beautiful women he could imagine.
Many women loved him but he never loved any of them enough to
say "I love you" until he met Cam, a clumsy, accident prone,
haphazard woman. She had more flaws than any other women he
knew combined. But, her flaws made it interesting for Charles
and he got close to her enough to see how truly beautiful she
was inside. At one point he even asked his friend, a love
loser, if it was possible for someone to love someone for their
flaws. His friend, also fell in love with someone with huge
flaws. However, flaws are a matter of perspective. To someone
else, a perfect person for you may be full of flaws but what
matter is that to you, they are perfect. Also, when you look
deep down, even a seemingly perfect person has flaws.
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